Don’t let what he wants eclipse what you need. He’s very dreamy, but he’s not the sun. You are. ”
– Cristina Yang, Grey’s Anatomy
Valentine’s Day is either a great day or a crappy day depending on one thing – whether or not you have someone in your life. It’s often known as Single Awareness Day, and it can make people feel really bad about themselves. We live in a society where it’s all to common to expect people to be coupled up by a certain time in their lives; there can be a lot of pressure because of this.
But it’s perfectly fine to be alone.
In high school and the majority of undergrad, I was that girl who always had a boyfriend. I was in one relationship after another and never seemed to have a problem with it. Until my mom pointed out that she felt like every relationship was changing me, just a little, but still causing me to lose pieces of myself. And that really got to me. I realized I was trying so hard to be in love and find that one special person that I was changing myself to fit them. Why should I have to do that?
So I took a step back and I decided to be single. To focus on me and do what I wanted to do. To find my happiness being alone before I looked for my happiness being with someone.
And honestly, it has been wonderful.
Sure, there are moments when I feel lonely or wish that I had someone. Especially on days when something breaks in my apartment and I wish I didn’t have to deal with it. And I have every intention of finding someone to share my life with. But I’m not actively looking.
I’ve taken the time to learn things about myself and fall in love with who I am. All of those pieces that I felt like I gave away with my past boyfriends, I’ve gotten back.
If you’re feeling sad or lonely about today, remember that the most important thing is to love yourself. So take a moment and think about all of the wonderful things about yourself, and how you deserve nothing but the best.